Well hello, there wonderful readers! I’m so sorry about how inconsiderate I have been in not posting to you in such a long time. I have been having a very busy life. So far I have become a much happier person, I am staying home for college, I found out who my true friends were, I discovered what I want to do for the rest of my life and I am currently helping some friends through a crisis.
Now, the main focus of this post I want to stress is “trust in a relationship”. I can’t remember if I ever talked about this before, but in my opinion, if there is no trust there is NO relationship. “Period, end of story, goodbye, the end. Any questions?” (quote from Harry Potter, said by Mad-Eye Moody).
My friend’s girlfriend is a very jealous person. Which is perfectly fine, there are people like that in the world. The only issue there is is that she doesn’t give him time to talk before she assumes things and freaks out. Now, I’ve known this girls boyfriend longer than she has. At least 4-5 years. He is the nicest, most caring person I know. He does have a tendency to get himself into sticky situations, but he usually has the common sense to get help and try to work things out.
Here’s the deal though. There has been so much ‘he said, she said’ crap going around that everyone is pissed off and confused and upset and it’s just completely out of hand.
She thinks that because of his on and off past, that he has cheated on her. She also doesn’t like his drug and alcohol use and how he is always making friends with new girls and not introducing her to them. Her solution is that he cuts off drugs, stops making new girl friends and gets better friends.
He, on the other hand, wants her to stop being so overbearing and actually listen to him for once instead of always shutting him out and believing other people over him.
Now, here is my simple solution folks. First, there needs to be communication between them, when a jealous girlfriend is involved there needs to be constant communication. Even if they haven’t talked all day, a text saying, “hey going out with the guys to smoke” is better than not saying anything and having her find out later. Let the girl know every single solitary thing that is happening for the day, week, month, year. Whatever it takes to ease her mind. Yea, it’s a crap ton of work, but if you really want to be with that person enough you’ll do whatever it takes. No trust, NO relationship. Second, for the girl, you can’t change who the person is. Even if you want to, it isn’t fair to make them change everything to make them happy. Letting them know what they’re doing is different than making them change who they are. Lastly, I would just like to say that you gotta just understand the other person from their point of view. Step into their shoes for a day. Maybe it will give a little insight.
Ladies, gents, friends..if you have to constantly check up on your significant other, that is just plain exhausting. You will both be stressed and at that point, it isn’t even a relationship. I don’t even know what that would be. Just trust that the other person is doing what they say they are. If you constantly doubt, then what’s the point?